Bercintalah berkali-kali!

Got this article from Majalah Solusi. A good article. Down here is only a portion of the article, to read more, buy the magazinelah....:)

Cinta itu perlu diperbaharui. Perbaharuilah cinta dengan luahan kata-kata yang baik. Jangan membisu, jangan menjadi tuli. Sentiasa jadi lidah yang menuturkan kata-kata yang baik agar ada telinga yang sentiasa terbuka dan sudi mendengarnya.

Bercinta lagi...
Untuk bercinta lagi, luahkanlah kata-kata yang baik untuk mencairkan prasangka, meleburkan curiga dan memadankan dendam. Cari-carilah topik yang menarik untuk diperbualkan. Antara kaedahnya ialah:

1) Berdoa untuk Allah ilhamkan kata-kata yang baik dan menarik semasa memulakan perbualan.
2) Menerima dan berkongsi hobi dengan pasangan.
3) Ulas apa yang anda dengar, lihat atau baca dengan pasangan serta kaitkan dengan situasi terkini dalam rumahtangga.
4) Sekali-sekala masak bersama resipi kesukaannya.
5) Jangan prasangka dan curiga, dan selalu memaafkan, selagi pasangan tidak melanggar syariat.
6) Amalkan peraturan 24 jam. Jangan biarkan "gencatan suara" melebihi 24 jam. Mujahadahlah untuk meminta maaf secara rasmi atau tidak rasmi.
7) Tempoh-tempoh yang dirasakan sukar dalam perhubungan hendaklah diisi dengan amalan habluminnallah seperti solat, munajat dan taubat. Jangan selesaikan masalah dengan satu masalah lain.

Adibah, my darling....

I am so glad this week as Adibah already fully recovered from her sickness. Often when she is sick, I am sick too. I am always over worried on her. I am worried that she''ll be sick and we have to stay at the hospital and she'll be gone, leaving me forever. May be it sounded like paranoid but I can still hear a pediatrician said that may be she won't live long. I can still hear the words. So, when she is sick I always blame myself for not being able to avoid her from being sick....I always do.....

Yes, she's a special child and even if she's gone, I have nothing to loose, isn'it? It will be better as I do not have to take care of her, do not have to go through all the hassle of raising her....

But still I couldn't imagine being without her. A day without kissing her, already a pain in the heart. What if not seeing her forever?? Even though she is like that, she is not normal, she is deaf blind, she can't walk and you have to carry her around, she cried out loud until you touch her, she always bite your finges, she won't eat the medicine, she make noises in public and everyone will look at you with that "sympathy look"....but still, I love her....I guessed, all mothers will have the same feelings when it comes to their children. If given option, all mothers will not want to loose their children.

But still it is not ours to decide. I do hope that when the day comes, Allah saw will give me strength to accept it, to deal with it. For He has given me and my family, all the strength to have Adibah, He has given all the happiness, even though we have Adibah. Or if I'll be leaving the world for eternity, I do not have to worry about Adibah as Allah saw will surely decide and determine what is best for her and for me.

But Adibah is a zero-sin person and she will go straight to heaven. Hmmmm I should worried about myself, will I be even close to the paradise...ooh ooowww.....

AYu

Cinta Setangkai Ranting dan Sebatang Pohon

Found this from a friend's book, Anis Tasnim. I love the article.

Cinta Setangkai Ranting dan Sebatang Pokok

Suatu ketika Plato berbicara dengan gurunya. Plato bertanyakan makna cinta dan gurunya pun menjawab: "Masuklah ke dalam hutan, pilih dan ambillah satu batang ranting yang menurutmu paling baik, tetapi engkau haruslah berjalan ke depan dan janganlah kembali ke belakang. Pada saat kau sudah memutuskan pilihanmu, keluarlah dari hutan dengan ranting tersebut."

Maka masuklah Plato ke dalam hutan dan keuarlah Plato tanpa membawa sebarang ranting pun. Gurunya bertanya, maka jawab Plato: "Saya sebenarnya sudah menemukan ranting yang bagus, tetapi saya berfikir barangkali di depan saya ada ranting yang lebih baik. Tetapi setelah saya berjalan ke depan, ternyata ranting yang sudah saya tinggalkan tadilah yang terbaik. Maka saya keluar hutan tanpa membawa apa-apa.

Guru itu lalu berkata: "Itulah cinta." Lalu Plato pun bertanya apa makna perkahwinan. Guru pun menjawab: "Sama seperti ranting tadi, namun kali ini engkau haruslah membawa satu phon yang engkau fikir paling baik dan bawalah keluar dari hutan." Maka masuklah Plato ke dalam hutan dan keluarlah Plato dengan membawa pohon yang tidak terlalu tinggi juga tidak terlalu indah.

Gurunya pun bertanya, maka jawab Plato: "Saya dapati pohon yang indah daunnya, besar batangnya. Tetapi saya tak dapat memotongnya dan pastilah saya tak mampu membawanya keluar dari hutan. Akhirnya saya tinggalkan. Kemudian saya temukan pohon yang tidak terlalu buruk, tidak terlalu tinggi dan saya fikir mampu membawanya kerana mungkin saya tidak akan menemukan pohon seperti ini di depan sana.

"Akhirnya saya pilih pohon ini kerana saya yakin boleh merawatnya dna menjadikannya indah." Lalu sang guru berkata: "Itulah makna perkahwinan. Begitu banyak pilihan di depan kitaseperti pohon-pohon berserta rantingnya di dalam hutan, tapi kita mesti menentukan satu pilihan dan bila terlalu memilih, tidak satu pun akan kita dapati."

Kerana, kesempatan itu hanya datang sekali dan kita harus terus maju seperti waktu yang bergerak ke depan yang tidak pernah tersimpan pada hari kelmarin dan bersemayam pada masa lalu kita. - PUTRI

My new career

I've quit job, after almost 9 years and joined another company (for less than 2 month) and then quit again and now I am a full time housewife. The "full time" is really full. One thing I didn't know about this job is that it is a 24 hours job, 7 days a week, no annual leave, no emergency leave. Not that I did not realise it before this, but never thought that I'll be so busy and even more difficult to find time for myself. Hmmm....

For the first few month, I'm in this new career, I was so busy searching for other job because I was worried of that money matters. And to make it worst, everyone that I've meet told me that I should work and that a housewife title seems does not fit me well. And I believed what they said. I believed that I should not become a full time housewife. I'm a woman with high education, I'm doing good in my career, so how do I end up a home maker? A full time housewife? I really cannot tahan that almost everyone that I've met looked down on me and my new career. Or may be its me myself that looked down on me. No one can looked down on you, make you feel bad without your permission. So, I permitted them to make feel bad.

This new career is what I'm looking for all these years, but why am I not happy? Because I am worried about that money matters again. But I should be happy, this is my dream. I want to take care of my kids, I want to do everything with them, I want to be with them. And of course for Adibah, my special one. She needs me, very much.

Today I pick up Afiq from school. Once he entered the car, he looked back to Adibah. Kiss here and kiss her and kiss her. Yeah, I finally realise that Afiq is now closer to Adibah. He hugged her, played with her. So, as Adibah. She loved gomoi her abang. She giggles, loughes a lot when they played together. Before this, Afiq seldom got chance to play with her sister. Why? Because once I left home to office, Adibah will be gone too. I'll send her to the babysitter. I reached home at night and so as Adibah.

Looking at Afiq kissing Adibah, playing with her, listening to their lough, what else would I want?I am so happy. And if this new career can give me "these happiness", that money would not be able to buy, so be it.

I am glad and I have no regrets.

Ayu

Aug... already?

Its already Aug 2009. And Ramadhan is just around the corner. And again what have i done this year?? Its already Aug....still thinking and I think that I have wasted a lot of time on thinking what to do. Why am I taking so long to figure what to do...

Ehmmmm ilham tak mai lagi nih. Baik pi solat lah.....

To be continue...

Ayu

Arghhhh

It's already almost mid year of 2009. Hmm...where am I? What have I've done this year? There are a lot of changes with my life recently, so many changes until I think I can't adopt, can't manage these changes.

I wanted to change. But sometimes I just don't know where to start, how to start. Do a lot thinking and finally, I've decided and I'll let Him decide, what is best for me. Often you think, that you knew best what you want. And you step into it. And then you asked yourself again, is this really what you want?

And life is about making choices, but why are we so afraid to choose?

Regards,
Rahayu

Adibah

Setiap kali menatap wajahmu
Aku sayu
Aku gembira
Aku sayang padamu
Engkaulah kurniaan Tuhan yang terbaik untukku

Namun maafkan aku
kerana aku juga hanya manusia biasa
yang seringkali leka dan alpa

Tatkala dugaan melanda
Aku takut kehilanganmu
Aku tak mampu melihat kesakitanmu
Dan tika itu aku seringkali berharap
agar aku mampu mengundur waktu
mampu mengubah takdir

Namun akhirnya aku tersedar
Aku hanya hambaNya
dan kamu amanahNya untukku
yang teristimewa......

AYu