Sorry, not coming today??

Have you been a boss or you are a boss now? What are kind of boss are you? Well I have no intention to bring this further to the leadership things like whether you falls under the leaders category, or the dictator or just a superior and that sort of things....no ...not talking about that?

I would just like to talk about being a human boss...Or do you have this human element when you lead your role as a boss or you turn into a beast or monster when you become a boss or you are the understanding ones? Of course with or without you realising it...

I have been to that role to, a boss and a subordinate. When you received calls like, “Sorry can’t make it today, because my child is sick” or “My child is hospitalized so I would like to take a few days more to take care of the child”. And at that time, you have so many tasks to complete and deadlines are killing and these peoples are not coming.

Arghhh..... Have you been there? What is your response? Are these your response “Sorry you can’t take leave, if you didn’t come, you will get warning letter for absent from work without superior approval” or you just shout “Kalau tak datang berhenti je terus. Orang lain pun ada anak jugak takdela asyik ambil cuti je”..... Do you give such response?

I ‘m not going to elaborate further on how you should cope on your job with less resources but I would like to suggest that you accept the reasons, that you work in a high trust environment and that you trust your subordinate with that reasons. However, you can always ask your subordinate for evidence from the hospitals.

Because family are just too important to be ignore or to be put less priority compared to your job. Yes, you need money to feed your loves ones, but will it give any value if you lost them while searching for that money? Will it be worth it? So, if you were a boss, you better think twice before asking your subordinate to leave his/her sick child and come to work. Because if something bad happen.....do you want to be responsible? Can you live with that feeling of guilty? For me, I don’t want to.

Or may be you don’t feel anything, if something bad happen, well that’s fate so why blame you or why you should feel guilty. Well, if this is the case, let’s try this one. Imagine that you’re dying. Will you prefer to die alone and not having the chance to say goodbye or sorry to your love ones? And just waiting for your dying moment without anybody to talk to and just crying in pain alone? Or you prefer to be with your loves ones, to spend more time with them, to let them know how much you love and appreciate them? Which one?? Answer people??

And if were a subordinate, an employee, and you were in this difficult situation, struggling between work and attending a sick child or parents, if you have to choose.... Choose your loves one. Because your loves one has no replacement. And trust me, when you’re sick there is nothing else that you want more other than being with your loves one.

By the way, nobody ask or would want to a have a sick family members, isn’t?

Well, bosses, subordinates, employees, life is about making choices....
To choose may not be easy, so learn, think with heart and mind and don’t lost that common sense when you that make that choice :)

AYu

Big changes

I've been very busy lately and thus have abandoned this blog. And there are so many changes lately too. I have made the decision to quit my job and move....Well, until today, I still can't believed that I've made such decision. I couldn't believe that I've chosen these changes. I am a one person that are so scared of facing changes and now today here I am. And I have made that decision in a very short time frame. Thank you Allah saw for given me the strength and courage to find changes after so many years.

But has usual, as a mother, these changes affected my family too. I felt sorry for Afiq for he has to change school and has to start all over again with new friends, new school. But he is a tough one, my darling sweet heart.

Now for already 1month plus, I've been a full time housewife. My goodness, housewife is actually a very busy job. There are so many things to do. Luckily, my mom stayed with me and help with the house work or else.....

Now, we have to figure out on how to continue living in this new place in Selangor.....changes needs sacrifices...hah there are so many things to think about.

Till then. Let me do the thinking first.

Ayu

Raya photos - Oct 2008

Writing a book

I was thinking of writing a book. A novel :-) I have so many thoughts of what I actually like to do and how shall I use this likeness and turn it to something that I can do everyday, meaning like a career, which to me means, do things and get paid for it.

Anyway, still thinking and although I seldom write I believed that I am good at it, isn't ironic? Why do I have this thoughts? But anyway, I'm writing again, after many many years...hehehe...will it come true....

Old photos....

A photo taken during Rohani's wedding at Penang, can't remember what year. But I think many years already because Afiq already grown up, so as Adibah. See, Adibah busy sleeping.

Photo of Kak Long, Nabila, Amira and Afiq. Taken during last 2 years raya. They already grown up by now. Missed them....

The photo of my heart :) Getting bigger and bigger everyday and often asked a lot of questions, as usual....children nowadays....

Really like this photo because of Afiq's smile. Me however, close eyes, as usual, can't adapt to the flash :)

Ayu

The Carnival

On last Saturday, 2nd Aug, we went to The Carnival Sg Petani. We heard people said that the place was cool, same like sunway lagoon. Okay, so we went there. My goodness, I strongly think that the person whose giving this statement, has never ever been to Sunway Lagoon. Sunway Lagoon and The Carnival is very far different. Alamak, camner orang tu leh buat such comparison. Totally don't understand. Anyway, Afiq and Haiqal are having so much fun....at least these 2 guy are having much fun :)

Ayu