What will you do if you hate someone??

What will you do if you hate someone?? Do you runaway from him/her? You try not to be at the same place with him/her? You avoid using the same route that he does so that you will not bump into him? You, of course try to not to have any conversation with him/her?

But if he is your boss….He is someone that you will have to deal with everyday…he is a family members that you can’t escape whenever there’s a family gathering. And you often feel like you wanna bite him, wanna scream to his face….

If you were in this situation, first you need to check on whether only you alone having these issues with him or he is confirmed to be such a nuisance and a lot of people also having issues with him and you were just his favourite target….this is the number one fact that you need to clear of because it leads to different kind of action.

IT’S ONLY YOU…

So, after you are clear and the answer is, you found that you were the only person that have issues with him. So, next, what you need to do is that, you need to check on yourself first. There are possibilities that it’s you, actually having the problems. It’s something in you that make you hate him or make him hate you. Look deeply, because sometimes we are just not able to see our own wrongdoings that have lead the other person to react in such a negative way towards you. Once you found the error, fix it. End.

If after you look deeply and still you found nothing, the next wise thing to do, is to have a crucial conversation with that person. The idea is that, you would like to stop hating him and stop talking behind his back and stop running away from him, because it is just not healthy to continue hating a person, and it makes you tired and exhausted too. For a crucial conversation, you can start by describing your dissatisfactions on how he treat you that resulted with you, everyday, trying to avoid and running away from him and that now you are tired. So, you would like to solve the issue, improve the relationship and you need feedback from him on the actions that you may be able to take to improve the relationship. And to find ways, to fix the error so that both of you will be able to live in peace and harmony. Once you get the feedbacks and the method, work on it. End.

EVERYBODY HATES HIM

This is easy, stop hating him. The rational is that, he is not even worth to be hate. In fact, you should be pity on him for he has some “screw loose” at his head causing him acting in such a nuisance ways towards everybody. So, how to do it… Whenever, he is trying to act or speak in an annoying manner, what you need to do is to stay in silence, smile and think in your head, that pity him, for he had a “screw loose” in his head, causing him mentally unstable and forgive him for that  With this, you won’t hate him, his words or act will not hurt your feelings, your blood pressure will not increase, and you lose nothing and you’re happy 

However, if you can’t felt sorry for him, try not to be like him. For example, if he shout at you or said harsh words to you, don’t reply him back with the same manner. Because you certainly don’t want to demonstrate that you are also having some “screw loose”, don’t you ;0

Ayu