Don't worry....Be Happy :)

After many many years, I met again with a friend, a long lost friend, a good friend, a friend from my childhood. Thanks to FB…..

My friend, is still single and available. From the way she’s saying things, looks like she’s lonely, kind of a bit unhappy with being singles. Since she’s always like having this sad tone, its kind of hard for me to approach her, meaning to spend more time with her. Not that I don’t like being with sad people or to listen to their grievances, but come on…..life goes on…..why lead a sad, unhappy life, when you can be as happy as you wish for….

Yes, what you wish for, for her case, a life partner, may not yet come to her, but that does not mean that she need to lead a life with full of disappointment and sadness until her wish is granted. Everybody would want to lead a normal, happy life with your love ones but sometimes things does not goes the way you want it to be, for it is not us deciding on our fate. And come on…..that is what life is all about, you don’t always get what you want, so deal with it…..you don’t go against the principles, you go align with the principles!! Araso!!

Yet, then she will said, it’s easy for me to say that because it seems like I am more fortunate than her, I have everything and bla bla bla……….Which is also correct, I’m not in her shoes and therefore, I may not understand how she feels.

But still, I’m a human too. I have problems too. Married peoples have problems too. As for my case, I would love to spend more time with my parents, but I can’t, I’ve a family to take care too. I am always worried of who will be taking care of my parents if their sick, because I have a family to take care too. And this is different if you’re singles and some more living with your parents. You can be there for them, and I wish for that….

Singles can spend more time with friends, and I wish for that too, you can attend all the reunion on earth……

Singles don’t have to worry about groceries, don’t have to worry about cooking meals for the family, don’t have to worry about not-having-enough-sleep because taking care your sick kid, don’t have to worry about whether it’s a school holiday or not whenever you want to go for vacation. Don’t have to worry on whether your kids get good grades or not at school….Don’t have to worries about in-laws and how to please them…..in laws can sometimes be very irritating…..but still you have to endure it :)

Hah……married life is just not something easy….although yes, it is a normal process flow but still the challenges can sometimes be abnormal :) Let me briefly describe it…

First, you fall in love, you put all your best effort to attract the attention of your love ones.

Secondly, both are attracted, you got married.

Thirdly, after married, in order to align the values, you were fighting with your partner, at a rating of 10, meaning, fighting every single day.

As a result, after a few years, you were already exhausted because of all the activities at the first three step, thus you slow down and start ignoring each other.

And then you get bored and were confused whether you are married or not???

Due to this, you have to search again of where is it your love and your love ones…..so, you have to come back to step 1 again and do the soul searching….Hmmm…..see….i told you, it is not something easy…..

Okay…okay….I am so far deviating from the main topic and certainly does not want to frighten you on the thing call marriage….so straight to the point, we have to be grateful with what we have today. Be happy today and don’t put your happiness to a condition like, I’ll be happier if I have a husband….I’ll be happier if I drive BMW, I’ll be happier if I’m a millionaire…..but of course, it does not mean that you can’t dream of having BMW and does not mean that you stop planning for your future.

It just simply means that be happy today and be happy to plan your life to way you want it to be. If it doesn’t appear to be like what you’ve aim for, then be brave to face it, because we all knew, we plan, we pray and we put effort to it, and the results, still have to leave it to the Authorized……

Last but not least, don’t forget, to look at the bright side, if you are singles, you can still live life to the fullest, you may spend more time with your parents, you may spend more time with friends, you may continue studying overseas, go whenever you want to go without having to worry about anybody else other than yourself. And who knows, along the way, you may find your life partner……


AYu